Becoming Your Own Best Friend

A talk by Cayce Howe

On Sunday, November 26, 2017, Cayce spoke about “befriending ourselves”¬† – it’s one ¬†relationship we can’t afford to pass over if it’s not going well.¬† If we are to be happy we must put in the work with ourselves.

What does it mean to be a good friend?

We spoke about two ways to do this. One is to review what it takes to be a good friend to someone else and then meditate and see if we can offer these same qualities to ourselves. As a group, we came up with qualities of a good friend, including:

– Kindness
– Listens
– Patience
– Being there
– Supportive
– Encouraging

Of course, this is a small list; I encourage you to add a couple. Then reflect: “Am I kind and patient with myself? If not, how can I be?”. In basic terms, be mindful of your willingness to befriend yourself.

The second piece we went over is forgiveness. Befriending ourselves means having a willingness to come home to our inner environment. If there are things inside of ourselves that need forgiving, we can work with this.

Below are some phrases for a Forgiveness Metta (loving-kindness) practice.
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Forgiveness Metta

In any way that I have harmed you knowingly or unknowingly, in thoughts, words or actions may I ask for your forgiveness — as much as is possible at this time.

In any way that I have been harmed by you knowingly and unknowingly in thoughts, words or actions may I ask for your forgiveness — as much as is possible at this time.

In any way that I have harmed myself knowing or unknowingly in thoughts, words or actions may I forgive myself — as much as is possible at this time.

In any way that I have been unable to hold the suffering of how things are, within me and within the basic nature of life arising, may I forgive myself — as much as is possible at this time.

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