A talk by Cayce Howe
On Sunday, November 26, 2017, Cayce spoke about “befriending ourselves” – it’s one relationship we can’t afford to pass over if it’s not going well. If we are to be happy we must put in the work with ourselves.
What does it mean to be a good friend?
We spoke about two ways to do this. One is to review what it takes to be a good friend to someone else and then meditate and see if we can offer these same qualities to ourselves. As a group, we came up with qualities of a good friend, including:
– Being there
Of course, this is a small list; I encourage you to add a couple. Then reflect: “Am I kind and patient with myself? If not, how can I be?”. In basic terms, be mindful of your willingness to befriend yourself.
The second piece we went over is forgiveness. Befriending ourselves means having a willingness to come home to our inner environment. If there are things inside of ourselves that need forgiving, we can work with this.
Below are some phrases for a Forgiveness Metta (loving-kindness) practice.
In any way that I have harmed you knowingly or unknowingly, in thoughts, words or actions may I ask for your forgiveness — as much as is possible at this time.
In any way that I have been harmed by you knowingly and unknowingly in thoughts, words or actions may I ask for your forgiveness — as much as is possible at this time.
In any way that I have harmed myself knowing or unknowingly in thoughts, words or actions may I forgive myself — as much as is possible at this time.
In any way that I have been unable to hold the suffering of how things are, within me and within the basic nature of life arising, may I forgive myself — as much as is possible at this time.
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